Success Is Failure Turned Inside Out

As I have been spending time developing Healthier Ever After, setting up projects for the end of the year, reflecting and connecting with others.

There are a million thoughts running wild in my head right now. Many people I know are suffering. I am witnessing many of my friends achieve certain goals. And the world… well the violence, hate, and destruction needs to stop. Yet at the same time many of my friends have brought new life onto this planet that embody fresh minds and open hearts.

Even when there is bad, there is good.

Life is a series of cycles. It ebbs and flows.

So instead of me trying to write something motivational and not too wordy, I will leave you with this poem. I refer to it often, and I hope you will too.

 

CARE For The Caregiver

Caring for a loved one is stressful, tiring, frustrating and also a very important and much needed role. It is job that you learn on the go. There is no ‘right’ way and it is a responsibility that requires constant adjustments. Most caregivers will also tell you, it is a role that comes with a lot of judgment.

 

As a caregiver, I admit to putting myself on the back burner many times. The more I did it, the more everyone suffered. I would feel extreme guilt for wanting to see my friends, go to a movie, or just have some me time. Outsiders always seemed to think I wasn’t doing enough, had their opinions on what I should be doing instead, however those that spoke out were never willing to show up and help.

 

What I have learned in my years of caregiving is that you cannot be an advocate for your loved one if you are not taking time for yourself. You are important. Your health is important. As the saying goes, you have to put on your oxygen mask first before you can assist someone else with his or hers.

 

 

The National Alliance for Caregiving has stated that more than half of all caregivers say they do not have time to take care of themselves, and just under half said they if they do, they are too tired to do so. 

 

It is important for family caregivers to find a personal routine that will elicit balance and recovery for one’s self. This will vary from individual to individual, and there is no right or wrong way. You have every right to focus on yourself at times while being the ringleader in this circus called caregiving.

 

Below are some ideas to help ease the pressures caregivers are under:

 

  1. Write: It is important to have an outlet for the stress and heartache that is endured each day while also remembering the positives that occur. Try writing down 1-3 things that you are grateful for at the start of each day. In the evening, reflect on the day. This is your chance to let it all out. And if possible, write something happy or funny that occurred during the day that will lighten the mood.
  2. Nutrition: Those we care for tend to be picky eaters if they still have the ability to consume food. Try quick, simple healthy meals that are easy to put together. I recommend Clean Eating for Kids. The recipes are easy to make and reminds our loved tend to revert back to wanting foods that remind them of their youth. Also, drink lots of water. It is easy to get caught up in caffeinated and sugary drinks, but water is so important to our organs, energy levels and overall health. Try adding some flavor to your water, this will also help your loved one stay hydrated.
  3. Set Boundaries: No your limits and don’t sway from them! If there is a family member that is on your case, limit their visits. (Hard to do but a must). This also means know when to ask for help. If something is out of your scope, or too much, ask someone who is capable and has the time. It is a difficult to ask for help but people are not mind readers, and the ones who dive in to assist you may surprise you.
  4. Movement: Many people neglect exercise because it can seem time consuming, or require too much energy. If you can get 20 minutes of activity in 3 times a week while your loved one is sleeping, watching TV etc. you will feel so much better. Overtime your energy will increase. You can even break those 20 minutes up into 5-10 minute increments throughout the day.
  5. Sleep: One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving. You hardly get any but if you can have a few thing you can do at night that help calm your body and mind the sleep you get will be so much more refreshing. Things to try; baths or aromatherapy, candles and 5 minutes of reading or soft music, meditation, and/or a cup of tea.

 

The goal of these self-care tips is to allow you to be more patient, less frustrated, and less resentful. Without these small recharging moments, the caregiving role can have the capacity to burn you out and leave you sick, depleted and unable to care for the one you love.

 

It is important to remember that caregiving does have its upsides too. There is an intimacy and deep bond that occurs with family caregivers that is not present in any facility. You know your loved one better than anyone else. You also can exchange untold stories, learn lessons about life, and feel a deeper love when that loved ones recognizes that you are there for them and only them.

 

There will be hard times but appreciate the loving experiences along your journey.

Tourney Time & Start of a New Season

“If you are not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback.”

~ Brene Brown


March Madness is well underway, and over the past few days, the majority of my time has been spent watching these young athletes compete. Many of them have not been on national television before. Most of them will have to take tests on the road, write papers for their class while on a plane, and yet they still have to focus on the task at hand…winning basketball games.

These teams are ranked by what they have accomplished in their season, and reputation also plays a big part in determining the brackets. However, I always feel like the tournament is the start of a new season. Once brackets are said and done, everyone starts 0-0, with one loss sending them home.

But no regular season record, statistics, or bracketology can predict is the heart and determination the men and women exuded once the ball is up. Each player has a story. They have their own purpose, something to prove, to overcome, and they use that as motivation to work with their friends/classmates/teammates to play their best game as a team and to leave it all out on the court.

Much of what runs deep in these athletes goes unspoken. But there is a common bond and respect each athlete has towards each other and each team. No questions. No judgment. Just hard work, sweat, and high regard for one another.

Imagined if we lived each day like these athletes do. Each day is a fresh start, clean slate, and your record is 0-0. You have the ability to start fresh and go after what you want despite any setbacks that may have happened before. You may be facing and opponent (time), or an obstacle (food choices), but with heart, and determination, you have the ability to overcome and rise above.

Visualize what it will look and feel like if you lived every day committed to your WHY. Your WHY is what runs deep and has given birth to your goals. What if everyone did that? It would be impossible not to respect someone else’s journey.  There would be no comparison (magazines, social media, gossip), feelings of guilt (time spent feeling selfish), and the world would be a whole lot healthier and happier.

This week, focus on why you are on YOUR journey. What it means to you and give it your all each and every day.
~ Tiffany G. 

Fab Friday: Empowered and Ready! Bring on 2017.

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WOW! 2016 completely shook up my world.

 

On a personal level, it was one of the worst times on my life. On a professional level, I learned a lot.

 

There were many positive things that I was able to experience, yet there are many things that occurred and I am still trying to understand and find the lessoned learned.

 

It has been rough.

 

The stress I endured affected my health and my business.

 

I set a lot of goals for myself this year and 90% of them had to be put on hold. I set out to EVOLVE this year. That was my theme. And I EVOLVED, but the journey was not what I envisioned.

 

As this year comes to a close I do believe I am in the perfect position to take on the next year, next chapter, and continue to move on and grow.

 

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I am stronger rooted in who I AM and will not allow other people to define or project their thoughts and insecurities on me.

 

Instead of dwelling on 2016, I am looking forward and committing to a STRONG, POSITIVE and EMPOWERED 2017.

 

Some of the many things I am excited to experience in the coming year:

  • Paid partnerships with 2 Health/Fitness companies. (look forward to discounts, giveaways and more)
  • Working with my team to grow my brand and update my site
  • Spring Training and running the Giants Race
  • Working with my Sweat Pink Sisters on the #IAMEMPOWERED campaign
  • Growing with the POPSUGAR Influencer team
  • Launching my e-book and online program
  • Finishing my book
  • Attending Blogfest and Fitbloggin
  • Going on a real vacation
  • Buying a paddle board
  • Working towards a pain free body
  • Setting healthy boundaries
  • Continuing my yoga practice
  • Guiding and inspiring my clients to live healthy and fit
  • Spending time with my tribe 🙂

 

What are you looking forward to most in 2017?

 

Share with me in the comments below.

 

 

Fab 5 Friday: Things I Am Grateful For

After a few chaotic weeks I am back again with another Fab 5 Friday.

 

Todays post does not have a specific theme, rather it is just a collection of some of the things that I appreciate, value during and tend to neglect during busy times. I am definitely looking forward to getting settled and getting focused!

 

 

The WOW Book: 52 Ways to Motivate Your Mind, Inspire Your Soul and Create WOW in Your Life!

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Todd Durkin has been my friend and mentor for the past 6 years and I was fortunate enough to get a sneak peak of his book before it was released. Todd has helped me grow my business beyond what I could have ever imagined and even though I have been working with him for 6 years, I feel as though I have just begun to scratch the surface.

If you need a little inspiration, if you are looking to improve certain areas of your life or to build stronger relationships, I highly recommend this book. I love this passage from his book, which sheds light on what it takes to create a life that you love.

 

“As we continue to work hard for own BREAKTHROUGHS and breakouts, know that it is the cumulative effect of our daily actions and discipline that sets you up for excellence. Dreams, passion, surrounding yourself with people that elevate your mindset, hard work, and the ability to focus on “winning” each and every day. That’s what builds greatness. That’s what builds champions.”

 

Friends that are Family

 

As I have mentioned before, these past few weeks have been filled with uncertainty. There were mornings when I did not know where I would be sleeping. I had packed up my room, broken down my bed thinking that I was going to be moving into a home only to have it fall through. I couldn’t even sleep on the couch at the townhouse I had given notice to because my roommate had allowed another person to stay in the living room. Again, there was no longer space for my belongings in the bathroom so I had to rely on friends. I can’t express enough gratitude for the people who allowed me to sleep on their couch, fed me dinner and allowed me to use their shower and internet. It is so nice to know that I have friends that treat me like family.

 

Furry Friends!

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It is impossible to be in a bad mood when there is a four-legged friend around that just wants to lick you and cuddle with you. Dogs are amazing creatures and I love that people trust me to care for their animals while they are away. This past week I have had some fun and entertaining times with Buster and I have many more dog sitting gigs booked through the end of the year. Dogs make me laugh and feel loved.

 

Healthy Food

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I will never take a refrigerator and freezer for granted again!

This is the first week in months that I was able to use a full kitchen, prep food and make my morning shake. In my last place, I had no room in the freezer for an ice cube tray. The refrigerator was packed with no room to spare and I settled for eating out which eventually led to poor food choices.

 

I took 3 days this week to complete the 3-Day Refresh program to help get my digestive system back on track. I feel good and being able to have my Shakeology daily has vastly improved my energy level.

 

My new roommate is also very health conscious and I am hopeful that we can prep some meals together.

 

Podcasts

 

You need to strengthen your mind just like you need to strengthen your muscles. I do my best to get in 30 minutes of personal development a day. When I do, I am much more prepared for what ever lies ahead. I am focused and clear about my goals and my purpose.

I have subscribed to many podcasts and have a lot of catching up to do. Recently on my commute I have been listening to my friend and colleague Trish Blackwell’s Confidence On The Go podcast. I have admired Trish for many years and was finally able to meet her in person last year after many e-mails and messages exchanged the years prior. Her authenticity and passion for helping people feel and achieve their best selves is admirable. Her tone and approach to her craft leaves you feeling invigorated and empowered.

The episode that really spoke to me recently was Overcoming Compassion Fatigue. I think any business owner or person who works in an industry that relies heavily on YOU serving and leading people on a daily basis should tune into this episode. I highly recommend you check out her podcast that she updates every Tuesday. You will not be disappointed.

See you next week!

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After

 

 

Don’t Be Afraid


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Halloween is just around the corner and houses and streets are lined with pumpkins, scarecrows and ‘spooky’ decorations. Kids are gearing up to sport their costumes on the 31st and haunted houses are preparing to scare anyone that walks through their door which brings me to ask the question…What scares you?

Seriously, when was the last time you felt afraid?

Fear doesn’t come from something jumping out at you or a spider appearing out of nowhere. It can steam from a change, taking action, or a movement.

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Currently I am in the midst of a transition that has had me feeling very fearful and apprehensive.

I am moving.

As I am sitting here writing this I still do not know where I will be living. I have a place in mind but it is now up to the landlord to decide.

I chose to leave my old place due to it’s toxic environment. It was triggering old emotions and ways that could send me into a downward spiral. I was afraid that if I were to stay, all the hard work I have put in the past 5-6 years would suddenly be lost, so I gave notice.

But I was afraid!

What if I can’t find a place to live? What if the next place is just as bad? Worst of all, what if I am the problem???

I have been out of my place for over a week now as the original place I was planning to move into pulled out last minute. I have been crashing on friends couches and sleeping in cheap hotels. Or shall I say, trying to sleep, since my mind has been racing and concerned about where I will end up.

Although I have faith in this new place, I am scared. It is away from what I am used to and will change my daily routine. There is no beach close by to ground me. There are no trails within walking distance to elevate me. It is forcing me to step outside my comfort zone and create new healthy habits.

A change like this may excite many of you, but for me it brings on uncertainty and uneasiness.

Right now I am homeless (with great friends!) but guess what, I am doing all right.

I am still surviving.

If this next opportunity works out, it will be a great healthy environment for me. Without a doubt, a step up!

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Albeit scared, I took a leap of faith and did what was necessary.

It wasn’t easy, it took careful thought while pushing fears aside.

But I did it and in my heart believe that everything is going to work out the way it supposed to.

This week, while everyone is prepping to scare each other, I challenge to you to do something that scares you!

What’s is that going to be? Tell me in the comments below!

Fab 5 Friday: 5 Things I Cherish When Visiting My Father

webmail-motivated-fitness-8If I am lucky, my schedule allows me to visit my dad once a week.

 

I have always been a daddy’s girl. He was the parent that listened, the one that hugged, wanted to talk, play catch, and would watch whatever silly show I put on just to spend time with me.

 

Many of those things I took for granted but now that he has been in a full time care facility over an hour away (without traffic) I embrace the little glimpse of caring and remembering that appears when the Alzheimer’s is momentarily suppressed.

 

Here are some of the things I am grateful for when I am able to spend time with him:

 

 

When he remembers I am his daughter. He still knows I am Tiffany and I am dreading the day when that comes to an end. For now, every visit he is excited to see me and still calls me by my name. Often he doesn’t know how to introduce me. He can’t remember if I am his brother, his wife or sister. But the days he does remember, the days he calls me his daughter, light up my heart.

 

Our walks on the patio and sitting in the sun. My dads facility has a large outdoor area. One of the things we always do is walk around the patio and he like to count the doves and the chickens that are in the cages outside. Every time he tells me that one is missing and then points out one that is a ‘bully.’ It is nice to be able to get out and walk around with him. I miss our walks near the beach or even just down to the shopping center. At least we are still able to get out into the open air and enjoy nature.

 

The gossip he fills me in on about the people in his facility. I am pretty sure it is all made up, but nonetheless, it is still entertaining. I often wonder if he is telling me old stories that he remembers from when he was younger.

 

I LOVE to hear him talk about the Giants. The San Francisco Giants hold a special place in the hearts of the Gustafson’s. It is a team that brought us together through tough and scary times. It is a team that we celebrated birthdays and Mother’s and Father’s Day’s with and knowing those days are long gone it makes me smile when he wants to talk about the Giants and their season. Granted they do not play the games at his facility, but he still asks and wants to know even though he may not remember a few hours later.

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When he walks me to the door. Well, sometimes. There are days when it is heartwarming and days when it breaks my heart. He always wants to walk me to the car, make sure I am safe and that the car is running correctly. Unfortunately, he is not able to leave the facility with me. He doesn’t understand why and gets upset when they wil not allow him to leave. There are some days I have to sneak out when he is not looking but I embrace the days when we will walk me to the front door, give me a big hug, and tell me how much he loves me. Those are the good days!

Fab 5 Friday: When Life Works Well List

With my birthday fast approaching I like to take time to reflect over the past 365 days. I think about what I have accomplished, what I want to accomplish, where improvements can be made and congratulate myself for the growth that occurred. Each year brings new adventures, new lessons, and powerful memories. Birthdays are a great milestone to take time to reflect on YOU. After all, it is YOUR DAY.

 

Here are my 5 ‘When Life Works Well” List.

 

  1. Trust your Gut

Both literally, and physically. Believe in your instincts. They are there for a reason, and every time I have tried to ignore what was stirring up within in me, and I turned away from it, I regretted my decision. Your intuition is a powerful thing.

  1. Keep Moving

Just do it. Nike’s saying is spot on. Even when you don’t feel like heading to the gym or getting super sweaty, just start moving. Go for a walk . Do some squats or reverse lunges in place. Jumping jacks are great too. Once you start moving for a few minutes you will want to keep going for a few more, then a few more.

  1. Personal Time

It’s not selfish it’s self-care. The other day I read a quote that read, “You can’t pour for an empty glass.” How true that is! It is important to take time for you. Go to a spa, meditate, pick up a new hobby or immerse yourself in an interest you all ready love. Do things for you. Do things that make you happy.

  1. Write it out

I am a lover of lists! To-do lists, grocery lists, if it can be made into a list and I can cross things off, I am a happy girl! I love to write and share my stories. It is a way for me to pay it forward, share and connect with others. It wasn’t until I started journaling on a daily basis did I begin to feel more clarity. I journal about the things I am grateful for, goals, dreams, what went well today and what ever else pops into my head. Some days I can go on for pages, other days its just a few sentences, but no matter the length of the entry it feels great to get everything that is going on in my head and put it onto paper. I don’t need to go back and read it, but it is there if I feel the need to do so.

  1. Smile Anyway

There will be times you do not want to. I have them often, but thinking of something positive, funny or inappropriate enough to give you a little chuckle will help lighten your mood. I find this especially useful when people challenge me, or try to bring me down. I just smile and think, “success is the best revenge.” That is thought or mantra that allows me to push through my funk and realize all the good that is around me. It forces me to smile and my mood begins to shift.

Fridays FAB 5: Finds!!!

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This week I have been focused on settling back in after a conference and vacation. It was time to iron out my schedule for the fall and get back to cooking and meal prepping.

 

While I love being able to take time off and get a way for a while, I definitely crave routine and having control over my schedule. This week I was able to try out a few new things and revisit some old.

 

Here are my Friday FAB 5 Finds:

 

iBand Sling

 

I received this in my BlogFest swag bag and at first I didn’t know what to make of it. I have plenty of small backpacks and a fanny pack (which I totally rock!) that I can take with me on hikes or to festivals. However, I do love compartments and this sling has a ton of them. So I decided to try it out on my hike this past Sunday.

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I loved it! It was comfortable, light and extremely functional. The only problem I had was remembering which compartment I put my belongings in. Not a big problem, just something this user needs to remember and get used to.

 

Valley View Trail


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Lately I have been hiking along the beach or somewhere inland along the peninsula but I decided to switch it up this week. I decided to venture to San Pedro Valley Park and check out the trails I used to hike on as a kid while growing up in Pacifica. I forgot how green and beautiful that park is and seeing a family of deer crossing your path early in the morning is a great way to start off your morning. This loop is very family friendly and has enough of an incline to get your heart rate up. It is also great for a quick run if you are into trail running.

 

Momentum Jewelry

 

I have been eyeing this company for quite some time but being the indecisive person that I am I had a hard time deciding on which wrap to purchase. I came across their booth at the expo hall while at IDEA World and the first one that popped out at me was this one….

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If you have been in my classes or trained with me you have heard me say “Dig Deep” many times. I believe in this phrase. We always have more in us than we initially believe. We can always push a little more, try a bit harder and go a little further. But you have to dig deep to find it and when you do you break down barriers. Now I just have to decide which one to get next!

 

miFitness Hub

This app was created by one of my clients husband and her brother. It is basically Instagram for fitness but more motivation and workouts opposed to selfies and butt shots. You earn points for posting pictures, videos and engaging with other members of the community and once you earn enough points you can redeem them for an Amazon gift card. They are still in the early stages and are in talks with getting more sponsorships but it is still a fun way to connect, learn new things and stay accountable to your workouts.

 

Encouraging Blend – Essential Oil

 

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I am becoming obsessed with essential oils. I now make my own cleaning products which are much cheaper and healthier. Use them on achy muscles, to help calm my anxiety and for a little pick me up!Waking up at 3:45 everyday isn’t always easy but I love this Encouraging Blend called Motivate which is a blend of mint and citrus oils. You can use topically when you have a stressful day or combine and inhale with some peppermint to give you an extra ‘kick’ when you need it!

 

Happy Friday! Feel free to comment below with your favorite finds of the week.

 

XO ~ Tiffany G.

Who Are You…

                             …to tell me what I can and cannot do.

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That was the message Olympian Amy Van Dyken delivered when she accepted her award for INSPIRATION this past week at the IDEA World Fitness Convention.

 

The former world record holder, and the most successful athlete at the 1996 Olympic games, joyfully shared with us the ups and downs she endured growing up in the sport of swimming. She spoke of the struggles she faced in the Olympics games along with the ones surrounding her life changing accident that left her paralyzed from the waist down.

 

She sat confidently on the stage, comfortable and at peace with all that life has thrown at her and had us laughing with her, rooting for her, and wanting her to become our new BFF. She is a remarkably smart, beautiful and strong woman.

 

As I listened to her speak, I thought a lot about the things I endured up to this point in my life which fail in comparison to Amy’s story. However, reminded me that I can accomplish anything as long as I BELIEVE IN ME!

 

I was told I was to tiny to play soccer. I DID IT ANYWAY

 

I was told I was not fast enough to play basketball in college. I MADE THE TEAM.

 

I was told I would not get much playing time in college. I BECAME THE STARTING POINT GUARD

 

I was told I should not go to Africa. I CLIMBED MT. KILIMANJARO

 

I was told that I didn’t have the business knowledge to start my own business. I DID AND BOUGHT A BOOT CAMP AND I AM LAUNCHING ANOTHER THE END OF SUMMER.

 

I was told that I could not make a living as a writer. I AM A PART OF MANY PARTNERSHIPS AND COMMUNITIES THAT DRIVE REVENUE.

 

I may be slow, not as fast as others, I don’t have a business degree and many people can write more eloquently than I currently can but I have what others don’t have.

 

A VISION FOR MYSELF.

 

I will not succumb to what others perceive me to be. I will work hard, hustle, network and form relationships that align with who I am and where I am going.

AND YOU SHOULD TOO.

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So next time someone tells you that you can’t, or shouldn’t do something, look at them and say…

 

“Who are you to tell me what I can and cannot do!”

 

Click here for Amy’s acceptance speech.