I am here to enlighten you on a few things. At 12:04pm you will turn 36. I know things have not gone as planned. Where you are at now is not what you envisioned for yourself when you were in your twenties, but what you have done in the past few years and what you have learned will be some of the most valuable lessons and experiences that you will receive in your lifetime. It may not seem that way right now, but everything will be okay.
Your place in life at this moment is an exquisite and confusing middle place. You are surround by people who are completely settled, along with those who have set sail at sea. It can be tough. It’s confusing. It’s frustrating. You are still learning to embrace the things that light you up such as music and live shows, travel, nature, spending quality time with your friends, writing and sharing your story. You have sacrificed many of these things but you need not feel guilty for implementing these things back into your routine.
You have learned the things that needed to be limited in your life; social media, television, alcohol, self-doubt and negative people. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty for making changes or making mistakes. You are still trying to figure everything out.
Sometimes you are too hard on yourself. Just remember the lessons that you have learned and your rules moving forward in this crazy and beautiful life:
- Trust your gut: You, and only you, know what is right for YOU. This applies to business and personal life. Follow your heart and pay attention to the energy around you. Being in tune with this will help reassure what your gut is telling you.
- You don’t have to be everyone’s friend. In fact, if you have a few enemies it means that you are probably doing something right. You don’t have to be all things to all people. Be you and stay true to your core values.
- Know your roles in YOUR life. Your 5 roles are: daughter, friend, coach, writer, and entrepreneur. Do not sway from these roles. If it doesn’t make your soul sing, walk away.
- Practice your faith daily. Everything falls inline when you do.
- BE YOU and take care of YOU. You are the only one responsible for yourself and your actions, or lacks there of, so OWN IT! Take P.R.I.D.E. Personal Responsibility In Daily Efforts.
- Win the Day. There will be tough patches and what you are going through is not going to get easier. There are going to be dark days but take everything day to day. Focus on being the best you can that day. Focus on winning that day each and every morning.
- 212 degrees. At 211 degrees water boils. At 212 degrees it boils. And with boiling water comes steam. And steam can power a locomotive. The one extra degree makes all the difference. Push yourself one extra degree everyday. Strive to be better and do better.
- THINK LIKE AN ATHLETE! Your nickname is Pistol for a reason. Remember all the times people told you all the things you couldn’t do. You were to small to play basketball, not fast enough for track, your arm was too weak for softball…well you proved them all wrong. You participated in all 3 sports in Junior College and made it to the playoffs in each one. You made the basketball team at Chapman, became the starting point guard mid way through your first season and played in the Sweet Sixteen your senior year. You are capable of anything if you are in pursuit of your passion and believe in your dreams. When those align, nothing else matters.
How does all of that sound? You will do great things and help many people if you follow the rules listed above. By this time next year you will have your program out that will help care takers take care of themselves and make sure that their loved ones are properly cared for and protected. Your blog will educate and inspire people to keep going and embrace the struggle. You will have time and freedom to actually live YOUR life for a change but still care for the ones around you. You will have more balance and flexibility..
This is your life.
It is messy and tangled yet chalked full of magic. And it is yours, Tiffany. All yours.
Happy Birthday girl. Keep at it.
Wishing you a Healthy Ever After,
~ Tiffany G.