A few weekends ago I celebrated my birthday. I had the luxury of celebrating with old friends and making new friends. The weekend was off to a great start and I couldn’t be happier with the direction my life was heading and felt that everything was also coming together for those around me. Friends were getting married, others were getting engaged, one found the place of her dreams then to find that she also won a home makeover, and my college buddies were making a film which I was able to be a part of. For myself and all those around me, life was good.
For the past three months I have been able to focus solely on my business and although I wake up at 4:30am most mornings my spirit is much higher, knowing that I am following my heart and love what I do. Each week I am getting closer and closer to my career goals and I know that the life and the business I have been dreaming about is that much closer to coming to fruition. I am proud of myself for taking a leap of faith and walking away from my 9-5 job.
But no matter how old you get, how much confidence you have, how sure you are of your dreams, there are always people there that will try to bring you down. As my birthday weekend came to an end I was told by some loved ones that I am not where I am supposed to be in life for someone my age. “You should have this together by now. Why don’t you give it up and get a “real job.” Please, can someone tell me what is a “real job?” And who are they to decide where I am supposed to be in my life, what possessions I should own, or what my personal life should look like at this moment in time?
I take a lot of pride in what I do. I motivate and inspire people to push themselves beyond what they perceive possible and educate them while doing so. It is a job, it is hard work, and I love it. To these loved ones, I should be working in a place where the paycheck is consistent, I should clock in and out at designated times, and I should answer to a boss and not be my own boss. I understand that this is how the majority of our country operates and that is perfectly fine. All those positions need to be filled, and the people in those positions work extremely hard to provide a valuable service to our everyday lives, however that is not how I operate.
I need flexibility and the ability to be creative. I thrive off of developing new programs, finding new ways to bring fitness into peoples daily lives and I need to interact with people on a daily basis. That is what makes me tick. That is what helps me get up at 4:30 in the morning instead of hitting the snooze button.
I truly believe that at this very moment I am right where I am supposed to be. I will not let anyone doubt me or deter me from what I have set out to accomplish. Any obstacle that stands in my way is there for a reason. It’s a challenge that I need to overcome to truly appreciate what lies ahead. I believe in my vision and I will not give up. I am determined to make it happen.
Yesterday we lost a legend, an innovator, and someone who changed how the world would function. He did not let any one bring him down or challenge his dreams or visions. He stuck to his guns and made it happen.
”Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. – Steve Jobs
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on his Tombstone – from the beginning – to the end.
He noted that first came the date of his birth and spoke of the following date with tears,
but he said that what mattered most of all was the dash between the years.
For that dash represents all the time that he spent alive on earth –
and now, only those who loved him know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not how much we own, the cars – the house – the cash.
What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard – are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left, that can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough to consider what’s true and real –
and always try to understand the way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger and show appreciation more –
and love the people in our lives, like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile,
remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.
So when your eulogy is read,
with your life actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say –
about how you spent your dash.
– Linda Ellis
Recently I was having dinner with a good friend and we found ourselves talking about life, our goals, dreams and other girly topics that most women tend to converse over when dinning with close friend. During our conversation, she then pulled out a pen from her purse, grabbed a napkin, and said, “Let’s write out your goals.” She began writing a way as I spoke of my dreams and aspirations until we had the napkin covered front to back. As we finished with the napkin she informed me that she was going to type up this list, and that I would be responsible for handing it the people in my life that I am the closest to. “These are the people that will help you get what it is you want.”
We have all set goals from time to time in our life. Some we have achieved and others we have not. I want you to take a moment and think about a time when you did not accomplish a goal. Who did you tell about your goals? What were there reactions? Were there certain people you were afraid to share your goals with?
Think about the people you choose to surround yourself with and think about their behavior.
Are they happy?
Do they inspire you?
Are they positive?
Do they lift your spirits?
Are they successful?
Are they living the life of their dreams?
Do you look up to them?
Do you help make each other better?
Did you answer NO to any of these questions?
Sometimes we are unsuccessful because there is a greater lesson to be learned before we reach what it is we are striving for. Other times it can happen because people that are not supportive of our endeavors surround us. They can be self righteous, all knowing, negative, greedy and condescending. When you said you wanted to lose weight, they were the ones that two days later wanted go out for drinks and comfort food. When you said you wanted to learn to speak Spanish, instead of signing up for that Thursday night class, they wanted you to go out on the town those nights to help them find the man of their dreams. When you want to spend a beautiful day hiking in Marin, they try and convince you to get a mani/pedi. Now take a minute to think about some of the goals these people said they were going to accomplish. Did they do it? Probably not. These people are the types to make excuse, lack determination, are unhappy with their career, their loved ones, they may even complain about their friends, or try to tell you what it is you should be doing.
The past few months have made launching my own business a high priority. I have told many people in my life about my vision for Motivated Fitness and my career moving forward. I have received a tremendous amount of support, feedback, and encouragement from people I have a high regard for. Every single one of theses people that have always shown confidence in me has had a positive impact on my life. When I think about these people, they have qualities I admire, they are fun to be around, they are happy, successful, and optimistic. They help me become a better version of “me,” and guide and encourage me as I take one step closer to living achieving the goals I envision.
Identify the people in your life that will take the time to write your goals down on a napkin and hold you accountable for what you are capable of achieving!
“Keep away from the people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. -Mark Twain