Success Is Failure Turned Inside Out

As I have been spending time developing Healthier Ever After, setting up projects for the end of the year, reflecting and connecting with others.

There are a million thoughts running wild in my head right now. Many people I know are suffering. I am witnessing many of my friends achieve certain goals. And the world… well the violence, hate, and destruction needs to stop. Yet at the same time many of my friends have brought new life onto this planet that embody fresh minds and open hearts.

Even when there is bad, there is good.

Life is a series of cycles. It ebbs and flows.

So instead of me trying to write something motivational and not too wordy, I will leave you with this poem. I refer to it often, and I hope you will too.


CARE For The Caregiver

Caring for a loved one is stressful, tiring, frustrating and also a very important and much needed role. It is job that you learn on the go. There is no ‘right’ way and it is a responsibility that requires constant adjustments. Most caregivers will also tell you, it is a role that comes with a lot of judgment.


As a caregiver, I admit to putting myself on the back burner many times. The more I did it, the more everyone suffered. I would feel extreme guilt for wanting to see my friends, go to a movie, or just have some me time. Outsiders always seemed to think I wasn’t doing enough, had their opinions on what I should be doing instead, however those that spoke out were never willing to show up and help.


What I have learned in my years of caregiving is that you cannot be an advocate for your loved one if you are not taking time for yourself. You are important. Your health is important. As the saying goes, you have to put on your oxygen mask first before you can assist someone else with his or hers.



The National Alliance for Caregiving has stated that more than half of all caregivers say they do not have time to take care of themselves, and just under half said they if they do, they are too tired to do so. 


It is important for family caregivers to find a personal routine that will elicit balance and recovery for one’s self. This will vary from individual to individual, and there is no right or wrong way. You have every right to focus on yourself at times while being the ringleader in this circus called caregiving.


Below are some ideas to help ease the pressures caregivers are under:


  1. Write: It is important to have an outlet for the stress and heartache that is endured each day while also remembering the positives that occur. Try writing down 1-3 things that you are grateful for at the start of each day. In the evening, reflect on the day. This is your chance to let it all out. And if possible, write something happy or funny that occurred during the day that will lighten the mood.
  2. Nutrition: Those we care for tend to be picky eaters if they still have the ability to consume food. Try quick, simple healthy meals that are easy to put together. I recommend Clean Eating for Kids. The recipes are easy to make and reminds our loved tend to revert back to wanting foods that remind them of their youth. Also, drink lots of water. It is easy to get caught up in caffeinated and sugary drinks, but water is so important to our organs, energy levels and overall health. Try adding some flavor to your water, this will also help your loved one stay hydrated.
  3. Set Boundaries: No your limits and don’t sway from them! If there is a family member that is on your case, limit their visits. (Hard to do but a must). This also means know when to ask for help. If something is out of your scope, or too much, ask someone who is capable and has the time. It is a difficult to ask for help but people are not mind readers, and the ones who dive in to assist you may surprise you.
  4. Movement: Many people neglect exercise because it can seem time consuming, or require too much energy. If you can get 20 minutes of activity in 3 times a week while your loved one is sleeping, watching TV etc. you will feel so much better. Overtime your energy will increase. You can even break those 20 minutes up into 5-10 minute increments throughout the day.
  5. Sleep: One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving. You hardly get any but if you can have a few thing you can do at night that help calm your body and mind the sleep you get will be so much more refreshing. Things to try; baths or aromatherapy, candles and 5 minutes of reading or soft music, meditation, and/or a cup of tea.


The goal of these self-care tips is to allow you to be more patient, less frustrated, and less resentful. Without these small recharging moments, the caregiving role can have the capacity to burn you out and leave you sick, depleted and unable to care for the one you love.


It is important to remember that caregiving does have its upsides too. There is an intimacy and deep bond that occurs with family caregivers that is not present in any facility. You know your loved one better than anyone else. You also can exchange untold stories, learn lessons about life, and feel a deeper love when that loved ones recognizes that you are there for them and only them.


There will be hard times but appreciate the loving experiences along your journey.

Moving On. Moving Up.

Where have I been, what the heck have I been doing???

I have been off the grid.


I have been quiet on social media. I haven’t sent out a newsletter or updated my blog in quite some time. Because of this, many people immediately thought that something BAD happened to my father, but in reality, I was taking on a GREAT opportunity.


I was offered a position that will allow growth, stability, a chance to be a part of a team and to continue to develop my leadership skills.


To be offered a position like this, at this point in my life, has reassured me that I am on the right path, and has reminded me that I do have the power to make an IMPACT in this world. More specifically, the Health and Wellness industry.


It has been chaotic yet calming, intense but fun, rewarding and filled with sacrifice.


Over the past 6 weeks, I have felt safe but scared, at home but completely uncomfortable. It is like I know this, but yet I know nothing at all. I have felt grounded, but often I can’t even find my footing.


Despite all these feelings, this is a shift I needed and was ready to embrace.


As I was settling into theses feelings, and becoming one with them, I found out that I again had to move. This would mark my 5th move in 11 months. This stirred up more bitter emotions. Because I have constantly had to defend and protect myself, I haven’t been able to truly cope with many of the things that have transpired this past year.


It was a tough few days when I found out the news. There were feelings of doubt, wondering if it is even worth staying in the SF Bay Area, questioning why I always seem to be getting knocked down just as things were ramping up.



After a few days of being lost in my thoughts, the little “Pistol” that is inside of me rose up. I was determined to make seize this change since with every change, there is an opportunity to improve.


And that is just what I did.


I have received amazing praise at work. I am surrounded by many old friends and have already made new ones. The environment is so positive it can be overwhelming, but I am grateful surrounded by happy and positive people that want to see you succeed on a daily basis.


My house that I successfully moved into this weekend is absolutely stunning. It is located in the hills and surrounded by gorgeous hiking trails.


With each move, my living situation continues to improve.


With each career opportunity, I become more solidified in my mission and purpose.


With each big change, I become more deeply rooted in my core values and what is truly important to me.



As I settle into all of my new surroundings, I look forward to continuing to share my journey and lessons learned.

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After.


X ~ Tiffany G.

Fab 5 Friday: My Top 5 Breakfast Meals

I know. I know. I know.


I am super late with this post. The thing is, my life has been going through some exciting changes and the thought of sitting still in front of my computer and hashing out this article was inconceivable.


With that being said, I love cooking breakfast! I usually have a quick snack or shake as I head out the door to my early morning clients. When those sessions are completed I get to head back home to a quiet house and go to work in the kitchen! This routine allows me to unwind, regroup and refuel!


Here are my TOP 5 (currently) BREAKFAST RECIPES:


Sweet Potato & Scrambled Egg Sliders



  • 4 pieces of Sweet Potato Sliced into approx. 1-inch rounds
  • 1 -2Tbsp of coconut oil
  • 1tsp cinnamon
  • 1 tsp sea salt
  • 2 eggs
  • A splash of non-dairy milk
  • Your choice of veggies and meat to add to your scramble.




  • Preheat oven to 400*
  • Coat slices of sweet potato with coconut oil
  • Sprinkle slices with cinnamon and sea salt
  • Bake in the oven for 20 minutes, then turn over for another 15 minutes (I usually cook the sweet potatoes ahead of time and heat them in the skillet for a minute on each side after I cook my scrambled.)
  • Create your own egg scramble and place between two slices of sweet potatoes.


Sweet Potato Toast


1-2 slices of sweet potatoes cut thinly lengthwise

Your choice: avocado, tuna, egg scramble, lunch meat, hummus etc.



  • Toast slices of sweet potatoes in the toaster on medium (varies per toaster). When it pops, let cool for 2 minutes and toast again.
  • Add topping of your choice


Yogurt Bowl


  • Greek or Siggi’s yogurt (both are nutrient dense and lactose-free)
  • Your choice of toppings. I recommend: Purely Elizabeth granola, coconut chips, Manitoba’s Harvest Hemp Hearts, berries, bananas, raw honey, walnuts, etc


  • Mix and enjoy!


Egg & Bean Breakfast Burrito

(Not my picture)


  • 2 large eggs
  • 1 fajita sized whole wheat tortilla
  • 1/2 cup canned black beans, rinsed
  • 2 tablespoons salsa


  • Crack 4 eggs into a glass bowl and whisk until well yolk and white are well combined.
  • Scramble eggs to your liking.
  • Rinse black beans to get rid of excess sodium, and set aside.
  • Pour eggs, beans, and salsa onto the tortilla. Roll into a burrito, and slice in half.


Mini Frittatas (enough for future breakfasts)


(obviously not my picture either)


  • 2 teaspoons olive oil
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
  • 1/4 cup chopped fresh basil leaves
  • 1 cup shredded mozzarella cheese
  • 1/2 cup plain yogurt
  • 8 large eggs
  • 1 1/2 cups grape tomatoes, halved
  • 2 large cloves garlic, minced
  • 4 (2-ounce) links all-natural Italian chicken sausage, cooked and thinly sliced
  • 1/8 teaspoon sea salt
  • 3/4 cup chopped yellow onion
  • 2 small yellow potatoes, peeled and diced


  • Preheat oven to 400ºF. Mist a 12-count muffin tin with cooking spray.
  • In a medium skillet, heat oil over medium-low heat. Add potatoes, onion, and salt and sauté for about 10 minutes, stirring occasionally, until vegetables are tender.
  • Add sausage, garlic, and tomatoes, and sauté for 2 minutes more.
  • Divide mixture among muffin tins and allow to cool for about 10 minutes.
  • In a medium bowl, whisk together eggs and yogurt. Stir in cheese, basil, and pepper. Divide evenly among muffin cups.
  • Bake for 20 minutes, until puffed and set.
  • Remove from oven and let cool for about 20 minutes. Slide a knife around each frittata and gently remove, placing on a large rimmed baking sheet.
  • Freeze until firm, about 2 hours, then transfer to a large zip-top freezer bag. Return to freezer until ready to serve, up to 1 month.
  • To serve, reheat in the oven or microwave can be used if desired.

Tourney Time & Start of a New Season

“If you are not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback.”

~ Brene Brown

March Madness is well underway, and over the past few days, the majority of my time has been spent watching these young athletes compete. Many of them have not been on national television before. Most of them will have to take tests on the road, write papers for their class while on a plane, and yet they still have to focus on the task at hand…winning basketball games.

These teams are ranked by what they have accomplished in their season, and reputation also plays a big part in determining the brackets. However, I always feel like the tournament is the start of a new season. Once brackets are said and done, everyone starts 0-0, with one loss sending them home.

But no regular season record, statistics, or bracketology can predict is the heart and determination the men and women exuded once the ball is up. Each player has a story. They have their own purpose, something to prove, to overcome, and they use that as motivation to work with their friends/classmates/teammates to play their best game as a team and to leave it all out on the court.

Much of what runs deep in these athletes goes unspoken. But there is a common bond and respect each athlete has towards each other and each team. No questions. No judgment. Just hard work, sweat, and high regard for one another.

Imagined if we lived each day like these athletes do. Each day is a fresh start, clean slate, and your record is 0-0. You have the ability to start fresh and go after what you want despite any setbacks that may have happened before. You may be facing and opponent (time), or an obstacle (food choices), but with heart, and determination, you have the ability to overcome and rise above.

Visualize what it will look and feel like if you lived every day committed to your WHY. Your WHY is what runs deep and has given birth to your goals. What if everyone did that? It would be impossible not to respect someone else’s journey.  There would be no comparison (magazines, social media, gossip), feelings of guilt (time spent feeling selfish), and the world would be a whole lot healthier and happier.

This week, focus on why you are on YOUR journey. What it means to you and give it your all each and every day.
~ Tiffany G. 

I Have an Addiction

I have an addiction.

It was coming between me and my friends. It made it hard to look them in the eye and hold a conversation.

It was hindering my visits with my father.

It was impacting my health, my productivity, and my sanity.

I was addicted to being CONNECTED.

I needed to be CONNECTED on Social Media.

I needed to be CONNECTED to my e-mails.

I needed to be CONNECTED to my text, phone calls and anything happening on Nextdoor, POPSUGAR and with baseball around the corner, the MLB app.

My phone was in my hand at all times. Even with my laptop open and my Kindle by my side. I began to take better care of these devices than myself.  It was holding me back from progress on many of my commitments and goals.

It wasn’t until I was visiting my father I realized the depths of this problem. I had taken a photo of him, posted it on social media to show his friends his progress while every Alzheimer’s/caregiving group I could think of in hopes of a reaction. I was consistently looking down at my phone every few minutes until my dad took it out of my hands and wanted to see it. (He knows how to swipe right by the way.)

I realized then I was not valuing my time and that needed to change.

So I made changes. And here is what I did…

  • Every Sunday I always set aside specific office hours, but I would often find myself waking in the morning and grabbing my phone to go through e-mail. I wasn’t COMMITTING myself to office time and was instead spreading it throughout the day. So now, I have scheduled hours in the day when I answer and respond to e-mails. I also turned off the e-mail function on my phone.
  • I am COMMITTING to only posting to social media 3 times a day. Unless there is a cute dog then that rule goes out the window 🙂
  •  Airplane Mode is my new beau and we are in a COMMITTED relationship.  I can turn it on when I am out for a hike or a workout. I can still listen to music or a podcast while engaging in activities that will enhance my mind body and soul without the distraction of phone calls or texts. I also use this mode at night when I go to sleep! This has had the biggest impact thus far.
  • Last, but not least, I had to limit TV. I have shows that I am allowed to watch at night to unwind, and those guilty pleasures that I can engage in while folding laundry or other mindless chores around the house. I am COMMITTED to cutting down on TV and I am even thinking of selling the one I have.
  • I am curious, after reading this are you addicted as well? Are there changes you can make to help you be more present in life?

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”


Just Be You!

Just a little #wellnesswednesday thought for you…

We are all unique.

We all have a chance to create IMPACT in this world.

We all have our own special talents and gifts.

We all have our own lessons to learn and will learn them at different times.

Our individual journey is meant to be.

Let’s all have more fun, celebrate each other and stop the comparison.

Can you imagine what we would each accomplish?

Own your individuality and celebrate the authenticity of others.

Happy Hump Day!


This recipe is from my colleague, Laura Marquis, and can be found in her book SWEETS IN THE RAW. Please check out her website Naturally Healthy Desserts.






  • ½ cup walnuts
  • 3 deglet noor dates
  • dash of salt
  • 1 teaspoon cocao powder
  • pinch of cinnamon


  • 2 cups raw cashews (soaked 2 hours)
  • 6 medjool dates
  • ½ cup cocao powder
  • ½ cup refined coconut oil, melted
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
  • 2 tablespoons cashew milk
  • 2 cups raspberries (juiced)
  • pinch of salt


  • 1 cup raspberries
  • 1 tablespoon refined coconut oil, melted


How To Make



Process all ingredients until graham cracker like consistency in the food processor. Firmly press crust into the base of 2 mini springform pans or 12 mini silicon molds.



Process all ingredients until a smooth, even consistency in the food processor. Evenly spread filling onto the base. Set aside in the freezer while you make the glaze.

Leftovers can be stored in the refrigerator for up to 1 week or in the freezer for up to one month.



Blend all the ingredients in a blender. Evenly spread on top of the filling. Freeze for 4 hours. Unbeaten dessert can be stored in the refrigerator for up to 1 week or in the freezer for up to 1 month.

The Scale…A Form of Alternate Facts

We cannot gain strength by doing what is easy. We gain strength by facing challenges.



I spent a lot of time over the holidays reflecting on my life, business, core values and how to best share my story so that I can help coach and empower others. I refuse to be one of the coach/trainers/social media influencers that focus on weight loss, quick fixes and 6-pack abs.


My friend and colleague, Anna Renederer, said it best, “The scale is just a distraction. It doesn’t show the whole picture.”


She is absolutely right, and that is what gave me the courage to share these photos and dive deeper into what you can’t see just by looking at these pictures. These images represent different phases in life and different lessons I learned when it came to improving my physical and mental health and well being.

The Struggle

In the above photo I was 28 years old. This was my first, and only fitness competition. When most people see this picture they think I am in great shape and often wonder why I don’t look like that, or compete anymore.


The truth behind the spray tan is that I was lost, struggling in my career, and believed that competing in a fitness competition would help me create a name for myself and land in magazines. It was away to escape my day to day and get to the next level. An ‘easy’ route if you will.


I had graduated with a degree in Biokinesiology and my goal was to show people how to be healthy and fit. No excuses. Mind over matter. After all, that is the mindset that worked for me with past accomplishments so why wouldn’t it work for everyone? Why wouldn’t people want to jump on board with me?

I was young, naive and life hadn’t really happened to me yet. My biggest concern in life was trying to find the hottest happy hour in the city.


When people didn’t jump onboard with my training style and philosophy I decided to go down the path of the people who were an inspiration for me in fitness. The ones I saw on the cover of magazines by the check-out counter. I registered for a competition and thought by dong so I was going to be a fitness model and my career would take off.


What this picture does not show you that I was hungry, and in pain due to restricted dieting and double day workout sessions. I was trying to mask my depression and anxiety, and thought by competing and succeeding my friends and family would show more support and respect for my career.

The competition came and went and none of the above changed.

Sure, the number on the scale was low but my self-doubt was at an all time high.

The Courage

The Giant Race of 2013 was a brief moment in time where I was able to take a break and do something for me. At this point I had been caring for my mom battling esophageal cancer for the past two years. I was at my heaviest but I didn’t have time to think about that.


You cannot tell from this picture  that I was sleeping on an air mattress for two years, the only clothes I had available were the ones that would fit into 3 brown bags underneath my mothers’ medicine table. It doesn’t show that I was up every few hours at night to suction my mothers’ tracheotomy tube or to administer medicine through her feeding tub.

And no scale can show that I was growing stronger mentally, discovering what it meant to live by core values, or that my mother started to see her daughter’s career choice was in fact a meaningful one.

While I wasn’t pleased with my physical fitness or health at this moment in time, I was learning a lot about myself, what it means to be healthy and becoming more grounded in the messages I want to deliver my clients and followers. The scale was the furthest thing from my mind because my parents didn’t even own one.

While I was scared and still very much anxious, my experiences watching my mother pass on and then moving right into becoming my father’s caregiver, allowed me to really focus on what is truly important and all the moving pieces that go into living a healthy life. Things that would allow me to connect and share with my clients and followers on a deeper level.

The Confidence

Arriving here (the above picture) was not an easy process. There were sleepless nights, lots of tears, betrayal, heartbreaks, falling-outs and lonely holidays.


But through all of this I have learned the importance of taking care of me. To make sure that I am getting my daily exercise in and knowing that somedays will be more active than others. Learning to put on my oxygen mask first so that I can help others.

I can now consistently make healthy choice and don’t look to anyone else for approval. I am unapologetically me and I got her through STRUGGLES, COURAGE, and CONFIDENCE.  

Being mindful and making healthy choices allows me to stay focused and committed. I have learned to set boundaries, but to still be open and lead with my heart. A scale can never measure progress in these areas.


So stop putting emphasis on weight and what the scale says. It is not accurate, it is an alternate for of facts (since that is now a thing). A healthy and happy life is meant to be lived, not obsessing over a certain number. There is so much more that goes into LEARNING to LIVE A HEALTHY LIFE.


Start looking at the THINGS you are gaining in life when you choose to commit to your health and fitness journey.

Superfood Soup!!!

Winter weather means rainy weather and cold nights which pairs perfectly with a nice hearty cup of soup! I received this recipe from a friend, and colleague, Melissa Esguerra. The past few months I have been working with Melissa to learn how natural solutions can improve my health, well-being and environment. This Superfood Soup is loaded with vitamins and nutrients to help support both your immune and digestive system. Enjoy!







34 oz Organic Chicken Stock

Olive Oil

Salt & Pepper

Parsley (for garnish)


Preheat your oven to 400 degrees.

Lightly toss the veggies in olive oil, salt and pepper. Place veggies on a cooking sheet as flat as possible. Bake about 20 minutes.

Wile the veggies are baking, heath the chicken stock on the stove in a deep pot that will also fit the veggies. Once the cooked veggies are done, add them to the hot chicken stock. Leave them on the stove for 15 minutes (this adds flavor to the soup).

Add cooked veggies to organic chicken stock on low heat. This allow the flavors to bind. Let sit for 10-15 minutes.

Pour pot contents into your blender. Blend until smooth consistency is achieved.

Pour soup into soup bowls and season with sea salt and pepper to your liking.

Garnish wit fresh parsley.