Success Is Failure Turned Inside Out

As I have been spending time developing Healthier Ever After, setting up projects for the end of the year, reflecting and connecting with others.

There are a million thoughts running wild in my head right now. Many people I know are suffering. I am witnessing many of my friends achieve certain goals. And the world… well the violence, hate, and destruction needs to stop. Yet at the same time many of my friends have brought new life onto this planet that embody fresh minds and open hearts.

Even when there is bad, there is good.

Life is a series of cycles. It ebbs and flows.

So instead of me trying to write something motivational and not too wordy, I will leave you with this poem. I refer to it often, and I hope you will too.

 

CARE For The Caregiver

Caring for a loved one is stressful, tiring, frustrating and also a very important and much needed role. It is job that you learn on the go. There is no ‘right’ way and it is a responsibility that requires constant adjustments. Most caregivers will also tell you, it is a role that comes with a lot of judgment.

 

As a caregiver, I admit to putting myself on the back burner many times. The more I did it, the more everyone suffered. I would feel extreme guilt for wanting to see my friends, go to a movie, or just have some me time. Outsiders always seemed to think I wasn’t doing enough, had their opinions on what I should be doing instead, however those that spoke out were never willing to show up and help.

 

What I have learned in my years of caregiving is that you cannot be an advocate for your loved one if you are not taking time for yourself. You are important. Your health is important. As the saying goes, you have to put on your oxygen mask first before you can assist someone else with his or hers.

 

 

The National Alliance for Caregiving has stated that more than half of all caregivers say they do not have time to take care of themselves, and just under half said they if they do, they are too tired to do so. 

 

It is important for family caregivers to find a personal routine that will elicit balance and recovery for one’s self. This will vary from individual to individual, and there is no right or wrong way. You have every right to focus on yourself at times while being the ringleader in this circus called caregiving.

 

Below are some ideas to help ease the pressures caregivers are under:

 

  1. Write: It is important to have an outlet for the stress and heartache that is endured each day while also remembering the positives that occur. Try writing down 1-3 things that you are grateful for at the start of each day. In the evening, reflect on the day. This is your chance to let it all out. And if possible, write something happy or funny that occurred during the day that will lighten the mood.
  2. Nutrition: Those we care for tend to be picky eaters if they still have the ability to consume food. Try quick, simple healthy meals that are easy to put together. I recommend Clean Eating for Kids. The recipes are easy to make and reminds our loved tend to revert back to wanting foods that remind them of their youth. Also, drink lots of water. It is easy to get caught up in caffeinated and sugary drinks, but water is so important to our organs, energy levels and overall health. Try adding some flavor to your water, this will also help your loved one stay hydrated.
  3. Set Boundaries: No your limits and don’t sway from them! If there is a family member that is on your case, limit their visits. (Hard to do but a must). This also means know when to ask for help. If something is out of your scope, or too much, ask someone who is capable and has the time. It is a difficult to ask for help but people are not mind readers, and the ones who dive in to assist you may surprise you.
  4. Movement: Many people neglect exercise because it can seem time consuming, or require too much energy. If you can get 20 minutes of activity in 3 times a week while your loved one is sleeping, watching TV etc. you will feel so much better. Overtime your energy will increase. You can even break those 20 minutes up into 5-10 minute increments throughout the day.
  5. Sleep: One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving. You hardly get any but if you can have a few thing you can do at night that help calm your body and mind the sleep you get will be so much more refreshing. Things to try; baths or aromatherapy, candles and 5 minutes of reading or soft music, meditation, and/or a cup of tea.

 

The goal of these self-care tips is to allow you to be more patient, less frustrated, and less resentful. Without these small recharging moments, the caregiving role can have the capacity to burn you out and leave you sick, depleted and unable to care for the one you love.

 

It is important to remember that caregiving does have its upsides too. There is an intimacy and deep bond that occurs with family caregivers that is not present in any facility. You know your loved one better than anyone else. You also can exchange untold stories, learn lessons about life, and feel a deeper love when that loved ones recognizes that you are there for them and only them.

 

There will be hard times but appreciate the loving experiences along your journey.

Moving On. Moving Up.

Where have I been, what the heck have I been doing???

I have been off the grid.

 

I have been quiet on social media. I haven’t sent out a newsletter or updated my blog in quite some time. Because of this, many people immediately thought that something BAD happened to my father, but in reality, I was taking on a GREAT opportunity.

 

I was offered a position that will allow growth, stability, a chance to be a part of a team and to continue to develop my leadership skills.

 

To be offered a position like this, at this point in my life, has reassured me that I am on the right path, and has reminded me that I do have the power to make an IMPACT in this world. More specifically, the Health and Wellness industry.

 

It has been chaotic yet calming, intense but fun, rewarding and filled with sacrifice.

 

Over the past 6 weeks, I have felt safe but scared, at home but completely uncomfortable. It is like I know this, but yet I know nothing at all. I have felt grounded, but often I can’t even find my footing.

 

Despite all these feelings, this is a shift I needed and was ready to embrace.

 

As I was settling into theses feelings, and becoming one with them, I found out that I again had to move. This would mark my 5th move in 11 months. This stirred up more bitter emotions. Because I have constantly had to defend and protect myself, I haven’t been able to truly cope with many of the things that have transpired this past year.

 

It was a tough few days when I found out the news. There were feelings of doubt, wondering if it is even worth staying in the SF Bay Area, questioning why I always seem to be getting knocked down just as things were ramping up.

 

 

After a few days of being lost in my thoughts, the little “Pistol” that is inside of me rose up. I was determined to make seize this change since with every change, there is an opportunity to improve.

 

And that is just what I did.

 

I have received amazing praise at work. I am surrounded by many old friends and have already made new ones. The environment is so positive it can be overwhelming, but I am grateful surrounded by happy and positive people that want to see you succeed on a daily basis.

 

My house that I successfully moved into this weekend is absolutely stunning. It is located in the hills and surrounded by gorgeous hiking trails.

 

With each move, my living situation continues to improve.

 

With each career opportunity, I become more solidified in my mission and purpose.

 

With each big change, I become more deeply rooted in my core values and what is truly important to me.

 

 

As I settle into all of my new surroundings, I look forward to continuing to share my journey and lessons learned.

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After.

 

X ~ Tiffany G.

Tourney Time & Start of a New Season

“If you are not in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your feedback.”

~ Brene Brown


March Madness is well underway, and over the past few days, the majority of my time has been spent watching these young athletes compete. Many of them have not been on national television before. Most of them will have to take tests on the road, write papers for their class while on a plane, and yet they still have to focus on the task at hand…winning basketball games.

These teams are ranked by what they have accomplished in their season, and reputation also plays a big part in determining the brackets. However, I always feel like the tournament is the start of a new season. Once brackets are said and done, everyone starts 0-0, with one loss sending them home.

But no regular season record, statistics, or bracketology can predict is the heart and determination the men and women exuded once the ball is up. Each player has a story. They have their own purpose, something to prove, to overcome, and they use that as motivation to work with their friends/classmates/teammates to play their best game as a team and to leave it all out on the court.

Much of what runs deep in these athletes goes unspoken. But there is a common bond and respect each athlete has towards each other and each team. No questions. No judgment. Just hard work, sweat, and high regard for one another.

Imagined if we lived each day like these athletes do. Each day is a fresh start, clean slate, and your record is 0-0. You have the ability to start fresh and go after what you want despite any setbacks that may have happened before. You may be facing and opponent (time), or an obstacle (food choices), but with heart, and determination, you have the ability to overcome and rise above.

Visualize what it will look and feel like if you lived every day committed to your WHY. Your WHY is what runs deep and has given birth to your goals. What if everyone did that? It would be impossible not to respect someone else’s journey.  There would be no comparison (magazines, social media, gossip), feelings of guilt (time spent feeling selfish), and the world would be a whole lot healthier and happier.

This week, focus on why you are on YOUR journey. What it means to you and give it your all each and every day.
~ Tiffany G. 

Just Be You!

Just a little #wellnesswednesday thought for you…

We are all unique.

We all have a chance to create IMPACT in this world.

We all have our own special talents and gifts.

We all have our own lessons to learn and will learn them at different times.

Our individual journey is meant to be.

Let’s all have more fun, celebrate each other and stop the comparison.

Can you imagine what we would each accomplish?

Own your individuality and celebrate the authenticity of others.

Happy Hump Day!

Credo For This Year And Life!

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 

The first time I heard about a Credo Card was 7 years ago from my mentor Todd Durkin.  I was attending his weekend mentorship program where he discussed how to create IMPACT, to live the life you love and be world class.

A credo is essentially a formula or a belief that people follow and/or live by. The top companies in the world all possess and their employees exemplify the words listed out on the card allowing for consistency in service, systems and experience. It is sums up the core values of a company and the mark they wish to leave.

While scoping around the internet the other day I came across this list below. It was posted as anonymous so I cannot give credit where it is due but I am adopting it as my credo this year, and going foward, as each of these statements ring true to my beliefs and values.

Although I did not write these statements, I honor their meaning and take ownership over these actions I intend to live by.

I encourage you to find, or create, your own credo.

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Motivated Fitness Credo Card

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