Control What You Can Control (Leave the rest alone!)

 

 

I have tons of ideas swirling around in my head daily, so when I blog, I like to schedule out my posts so that my thoughts are clear, and each post has a distinct message or take away.

 

As I sat down to plan my future posts, I looked back at what I had planned for the past two weeks. Due to my father’s illness, trying to provide a better solution for the situation, maintaining my job and clients, the content was never published.

 

Rightfully so.

 

I was overwhelmed and confused.

 

During these situations, I tend to bang my head against a wall instead of pushing off, and going on my way.

 

As I reviewed the topics I planned to touch on in each social media area, I was reminded that these are topics I NEED to PERSONALLY work on each day. I decided to share them in one post because if you do not address the things that is out of alignment, you will end up with a myriad of issues

 

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  1. You must win the small daily battles, if you want to win the war.

This takes consistency, commitment, a strong foundation in your core values and an even stronger sense of why you went to war in the first place. One thing most people don’t know about me is that I have been battling since taking my first breath. I was 4.5 pounds; my head was growing at a more rapid rate than my body and I spent a lot of time in the hospital during the first few months of my life. I am no stranger to a challenge, and if I truly believe in something, I will stand for what I believe in.

 

If you are going to take a stand, victory will not come over night. It is going to take a lot of work. How much work are you willing to put in daily.

 

 

 

  1. You must be courageous to have delayed gratification.

It takes a lot of courage to trust your gut and follow your heart. It is easy to give up, give in, and throw in the towel. Instant gratification rarely exists, and if you come across it, it will not last. If you want long term results, you should be committed to going the long way.

 

Doing so will require a lot of twists and turns. How many turns are you willing to take to get what it is you want?

 

The answer should be all of them.

 

  1. We cannot control everything, but we can control how we respond to those things that are out of our control.

 

We can’t control the weather, traffic, or other people.  We can however, control our thoughts, actions, and attitude. I always tell my clients to control the controllable. Don’t get caught up in the other variables that consume our energy. When you focus on daily habits and rituals, the success will come. In life, if you focus on you, your journey and your core values your energy will vibrate at a higher level. And remember, what other people are doing or thinking is none of your business!

 

 

  1. “Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.” 
    ― Thich Nhat Hanh

 

I am a terrible breather. No joke, I am a shallow breather which not only affects me physically but also mentally. It is hard for me to sit, take a deep breath, and exhale slowly. It is foreign to me and something I need to practice but often put off doing. Later this month I will go into the physical effects shallow breathing has on your body, but today I am focusing on the mental benefits of taking deep breaths.

 

When we are angry, overwhelmed, lost and stressed it is easy to react instead of acting with intention. The former is where we relinquish control of our thoughts and actions, the latter is the state in which we can course correct and act. Taking a few moments to participate in active breathing will help calm our nerves, take us out of the fight or flight mode, and allow us to think, and then act with a clear mind.

 

Try this deep breathing exercise next time you feel overwhelmed or angry:

 

To start, inhale for a count of four, hold for four, then exhale for a count of four (all through the nose, which adds a natural resistance to the breath).

 

Looking for more advanced? Build up to 6, 8 or even 10 counts!

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After

~ Tiffany G

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