Love your Ego…it’s there for a reason.


This past weekend I had the opportunity to attend a workshop on The Art of Coaching. I attended the workshop with the intention and the goal of coming out a better coach and motivator. I was determined to be able to find a better way to express my knowledge, my passion, and inspire people to lead a healthier and more “fit” lifestyle by the end of the weekend. But what I quickly learned, that was my ego talking.

“The spirit seeks the journey, the ego seeks the destination.”

My whole life I have been focused on the destination. I am a goal setter. I like goals, maybe a little too much. Even after my collegiate sports career, I have found myself setting weird goals through out the day. They make me feel like I have a purpose. I even set small silly goals, like ” Can I get all my errands done in two hours?” Oh, and you would think I am nuts if I were to describe the victory I feel when I achieved something as miniscule and ridiculous as that. Well, that my friends is my ego. I never considered myself to be an egotistical person. I am calm. Inviting. I try to be accepting of all people, but what I realized this weekend is that we all have egos. The ego yearns for a sense of control, it wants gratifications, it is who we think we are, but it can suppress who we really are. The ego manifests itself differently depending on the individual. For me, I tend to set a goal, put my nose to the grindstone and not look up until I achieve it.

I have set a lot of goals in my life. I was determined to play college basketball ….check. Compete in a fitness competition….check! Sign with a talent agent, run a half marathon, climb to the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro….check, check, and check! I have set many goals and have failed, but I have accomplished a lot of great things in my time. And regardless if I fell short of the goal or achieved it, I was faced with many set backs and obstacles. At the time I thought it was because I took my eye off the goal, I wasn’t focused, but I realize now that it was my spirits (insert your higher power here) way of telling me to step back and take a breath. I realized this weekend I have to be aware of this to ensure that my clients do not become too focused on the final outcome. Sure we all want to lose weight, tone up, eat right, but that doesn’t mean we can’t take the time to truly enjoy some of the “set backs” in life.

By the end of this past weekend I learned a lot about myself, why I am destined to be in the field that I am in, and that I am willing to accept my ego and acknowledge my spirit. I walked into the weekend with my ego telling me I was going to come out a better coach to each client, I walked out with my spirit saying it’s going to be journey and I am going to learn more about myself from each relationship I develop, weather it be clients, friends, or family. And I hope you learn from me as well.

We all have goals, we all have our own journeys, and I am looking forward to sharing it with you!

Be well,