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Moving On. Moving Up.

Where have I been, what the heck have I been doing???

I have been off the grid.

 

I have been quiet on social media. I haven’t sent out a newsletter or updated my blog in quite some time. Because of this, many people immediately thought that something BAD happened to my father, but in reality, I was taking on a GREAT opportunity.

 

I was offered a position that will allow growth, stability, a chance to be a part of a team and to continue to develop my leadership skills.

 

To be offered a position like this, at this point in my life, has reassured me that I am on the right path, and has reminded me that I do have the power to make an IMPACT in this world. More specifically, the Health and Wellness industry.

 

It has been chaotic yet calming, intense but fun, rewarding and filled with sacrifice.

 

Over the past 6 weeks, I have felt safe but scared, at home but completely uncomfortable. It is like I know this, but yet I know nothing at all. I have felt grounded, but often I can’t even find my footing.

 

Despite all these feelings, this is a shift I needed and was ready to embrace.

 

As I was settling into theses feelings, and becoming one with them, I found out that I again had to move. This would mark my 5th move in 11 months. This stirred up more bitter emotions. Because I have constantly had to defend and protect myself, I haven’t been able to truly cope with many of the things that have transpired this past year.

 

It was a tough few days when I found out the news. There were feelings of doubt, wondering if it is even worth staying in the SF Bay Area, questioning why I always seem to be getting knocked down just as things were ramping up.

 

 

After a few days of being lost in my thoughts, the little “Pistol” that is inside of me rose up. I was determined to make seize this change since with every change, there is an opportunity to improve.

 

And that is just what I did.

 

I have received amazing praise at work. I am surrounded by many old friends and have already made new ones. The environment is so positive it can be overwhelming, but I am grateful surrounded by happy and positive people that want to see you succeed on a daily basis.

 

My house that I successfully moved into this weekend is absolutely stunning. It is located in the hills and surrounded by gorgeous hiking trails.

 

With each move, my living situation continues to improve.

 

With each career opportunity, I become more solidified in my mission and purpose.

 

With each big change, I become more deeply rooted in my core values and what is truly important to me.

 

 

As I settle into all of my new surroundings, I look forward to continuing to share my journey and lessons learned.

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After.

 

X ~ Tiffany G.

Fab Friday: Fitness Gifts, Gadgets & Gear!

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Fitness Gear & Gadgets

(These are a few of my favorite things!)

Are you still looking for a gift for the fitness enthusiast in your life? Or, maybe you are looking for some fresh new gear and tolls to kick 2017 of right! I have complied a list of some of my favorite gadgets and gear including somethings that are on my personal wish list.

Check ’em out and click on the links below the picture to shop!

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1. Tigger Point STK  2. Trigger Point Grid Mini 3. Happy Hour Sweatshirt 4. Slay T-Shirt

5. Ninja Yoga Capri’s 6. Flight Fitness Kit 7. Nike Medium Resistance Band 8. Nike Gym Bag

9. Yoga Mat 10. Yoga Strap 12. Glass Water Bottle

14. Fitbit Alta ($30!!!)  16. Yes to Cucumber Face Wipes 17. Jump Rope

18. Happy Bud Headphones

Trigger Point STK & Grid Mini: Perfect tools to help relieve and restore those tight, tired and achy muscles. What I love most about these two is that they are small and compact so they can fit perfectly in a gym bag or suitcase.

Graphic Sweatshirt & T-Shirt: Who doesn’t LOVE to rock a fun saying on their shirt. I always find that when I have an outfit that makes me feel good and a little bad-@$$y my workouts are so much better. There are plenty of fun sayings out there, which one speaks to you?

Ninja Yoga Capri’s: These are super cute, high quality and are at the top of my wishlist.

On the Go Essentials: Do you travel a lot? Well now there is no excuse not to miss a workout. These resistance bands are a easy to tote with you in the Nike gym bag or any bag of your choice. I happen to like the look and style of this Nike bag.

Yoga Mat, Strap and Cleaning Wipes: Yoga mats are always good have on hand. I have one for my own outdoor workouts, in house workouts and nicer one for yoga classes. The yoga strap is a great tool to increase flexibility and work on mobility. I also had the opportunity to test out the Seven Yoga Mat Wipes and was pleased with product and they smell great!

Glass Water Bottle: Even knowing the health benefits of using a glass water bottle over plastic I was apprehensive to transition for a long time. I am clumsy and though for sure it would break. I have now switched over and refuse to go back. It also allows me to use my essential oils to add a pick me up to my workouts.

Fitbit Charge 2 & Alta: I happen to find Fitbit and their products perfect for my needs. They are easy to use, sink with your smart phone and the Alta is on sale for $30. You can’t beat that!

Post Workout Needs: Dry shampoo and good cleansing wipes are a must! These are perfect additions to your gym bag for easy use and a quick pick me up so you can run errands after your workout sesh!.

Speed Rope & Earbuds: Two things that can increase the intensity of a workout. A jump rope allows for hard hitting cardio and is perfect for when you are short on time. These earbuds are super cute and music can make or break a workout. Select your butt kicking play list and get moving.

So there you have it.

I am curious to hear from you, What are some of your favorite things?

Leave them in the comments below!

Fab 5 Friday: Things I Am Grateful For

After a few chaotic weeks I am back again with another Fab 5 Friday.

 

Todays post does not have a specific theme, rather it is just a collection of some of the things that I appreciate, value during and tend to neglect during busy times. I am definitely looking forward to getting settled and getting focused!

 

 

The WOW Book: 52 Ways to Motivate Your Mind, Inspire Your Soul and Create WOW in Your Life!

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Todd Durkin has been my friend and mentor for the past 6 years and I was fortunate enough to get a sneak peak of his book before it was released. Todd has helped me grow my business beyond what I could have ever imagined and even though I have been working with him for 6 years, I feel as though I have just begun to scratch the surface.

If you need a little inspiration, if you are looking to improve certain areas of your life or to build stronger relationships, I highly recommend this book. I love this passage from his book, which sheds light on what it takes to create a life that you love.

 

“As we continue to work hard for own BREAKTHROUGHS and breakouts, know that it is the cumulative effect of our daily actions and discipline that sets you up for excellence. Dreams, passion, surrounding yourself with people that elevate your mindset, hard work, and the ability to focus on “winning” each and every day. That’s what builds greatness. That’s what builds champions.”

 

Friends that are Family

 

As I have mentioned before, these past few weeks have been filled with uncertainty. There were mornings when I did not know where I would be sleeping. I had packed up my room, broken down my bed thinking that I was going to be moving into a home only to have it fall through. I couldn’t even sleep on the couch at the townhouse I had given notice to because my roommate had allowed another person to stay in the living room. Again, there was no longer space for my belongings in the bathroom so I had to rely on friends. I can’t express enough gratitude for the people who allowed me to sleep on their couch, fed me dinner and allowed me to use their shower and internet. It is so nice to know that I have friends that treat me like family.

 

Furry Friends!

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It is impossible to be in a bad mood when there is a four-legged friend around that just wants to lick you and cuddle with you. Dogs are amazing creatures and I love that people trust me to care for their animals while they are away. This past week I have had some fun and entertaining times with Buster and I have many more dog sitting gigs booked through the end of the year. Dogs make me laugh and feel loved.

 

Healthy Food

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I will never take a refrigerator and freezer for granted again!

This is the first week in months that I was able to use a full kitchen, prep food and make my morning shake. In my last place, I had no room in the freezer for an ice cube tray. The refrigerator was packed with no room to spare and I settled for eating out which eventually led to poor food choices.

 

I took 3 days this week to complete the 3-Day Refresh program to help get my digestive system back on track. I feel good and being able to have my Shakeology daily has vastly improved my energy level.

 

My new roommate is also very health conscious and I am hopeful that we can prep some meals together.

 

Podcasts

 

You need to strengthen your mind just like you need to strengthen your muscles. I do my best to get in 30 minutes of personal development a day. When I do, I am much more prepared for what ever lies ahead. I am focused and clear about my goals and my purpose.

I have subscribed to many podcasts and have a lot of catching up to do. Recently on my commute I have been listening to my friend and colleague Trish Blackwell’s Confidence On The Go podcast. I have admired Trish for many years and was finally able to meet her in person last year after many e-mails and messages exchanged the years prior. Her authenticity and passion for helping people feel and achieve their best selves is admirable. Her tone and approach to her craft leaves you feeling invigorated and empowered.

The episode that really spoke to me recently was Overcoming Compassion Fatigue. I think any business owner or person who works in an industry that relies heavily on YOU serving and leading people on a daily basis should tune into this episode. I highly recommend you check out her podcast that she updates every Tuesday. You will not be disappointed.

See you next week!

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After

 

 

Fab 5 Friday: When Life Works Well List

With my birthday fast approaching I like to take time to reflect over the past 365 days. I think about what I have accomplished, what I want to accomplish, where improvements can be made and congratulate myself for the growth that occurred. Each year brings new adventures, new lessons, and powerful memories. Birthdays are a great milestone to take time to reflect on YOU. After all, it is YOUR DAY.

 

Here are my 5 ‘When Life Works Well” List.

 

  1. Trust your Gut

Both literally, and physically. Believe in your instincts. They are there for a reason, and every time I have tried to ignore what was stirring up within in me, and I turned away from it, I regretted my decision. Your intuition is a powerful thing.

  1. Keep Moving

Just do it. Nike’s saying is spot on. Even when you don’t feel like heading to the gym or getting super sweaty, just start moving. Go for a walk . Do some squats or reverse lunges in place. Jumping jacks are great too. Once you start moving for a few minutes you will want to keep going for a few more, then a few more.

  1. Personal Time

It’s not selfish it’s self-care. The other day I read a quote that read, “You can’t pour for an empty glass.” How true that is! It is important to take time for you. Go to a spa, meditate, pick up a new hobby or immerse yourself in an interest you all ready love. Do things for you. Do things that make you happy.

  1. Write it out

I am a lover of lists! To-do lists, grocery lists, if it can be made into a list and I can cross things off, I am a happy girl! I love to write and share my stories. It is a way for me to pay it forward, share and connect with others. It wasn’t until I started journaling on a daily basis did I begin to feel more clarity. I journal about the things I am grateful for, goals, dreams, what went well today and what ever else pops into my head. Some days I can go on for pages, other days its just a few sentences, but no matter the length of the entry it feels great to get everything that is going on in my head and put it onto paper. I don’t need to go back and read it, but it is there if I feel the need to do so.

  1. Smile Anyway

There will be times you do not want to. I have them often, but thinking of something positive, funny or inappropriate enough to give you a little chuckle will help lighten your mood. I find this especially useful when people challenge me, or try to bring me down. I just smile and think, “success is the best revenge.” That is thought or mantra that allows me to push through my funk and realize all the good that is around me. It forces me to smile and my mood begins to shift.

Motivation, Mantras and More…Oh My!

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Motivational posts flood the morning newsfeed everyday on Facebook. Especially Mondays!

 

Meme’s about positivity, or poking light at something bombard Instagram on a daily basis.

 

And of course, there are the rants, the arguing between personal comments and the statuses that give away too much information. However, it is the positive posts that have the greatest impact in a not-so positive way.

 

In this day and age, it is hard to not get sucked in other people’s status updates,  difficult to not compare ourselves to the people who seem to never experience a bad day, and it takes every once of power and might to not punch the outspoken person whose views completely differ from yours.

 

But guess what?

 

Social Media Isn’t Real!

 

Not always anyway.

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As Fitness Professional, I am told to always post positively.

 

As a writer, I am told to be raw and authentic.

 

As a social medial influencer, I am told to be relatable, engaging and honest.

 

It gets confusing. There are days I spend so much time trolling the Internet seeing what other people like me are doing and posting. Analyzing the number of likes they get and the amount of followers they have. Next thing I know, hours have passed and I have not accomplished a single thing. Then I have to come back to reality. MY REALITY.

 

When I post a positive post, sometimes I totally feel it. Other times, I NEED TO HEAR THAT POST. That quote may be the affirmation I need for that day, and I share it because I believe someone else out there may need to hear it too.

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I try to be honest with my feelings and my struggles. I am by no means perfect and I feel that allowing people in allows me to be more approachable, therefore, I have the opportunity to help and coach more people.

 

Some people don’t like my honesty. That’s fine. Keep scrolling or unfollow me. It has been done before and it doesn’t faze my mission or me. (Okay, it fazed me a little bit but I survived.)

 

When you find yourself comparing yourself to these seemingly ‘perfect’ lives on social media, ask yourself if it feels authentic or fake. I encourage you to pay attention to those that share their stories, ups and downs. Try engaging with those who provide valuable information and make social media work for you!

 

Social Media can be a great way to connect with others when used correctly and mindfully.

 

So don’t get caught up in the carefully crafted flashy photo that took many hours and apps to create.

 

Focus on YOU!

 

Be YOU!

Client Spotlight: Heather Armstrong

I have been working with Heather for over 4 years now and I am always inspired by her determination, dedication and positive attitude. She is able to juggle school, internships, social life and never misses her training sessions. She is a true role model when it comes to work-life balance!

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Heather & Jesse with Warriors trophy.

  1. You just received your doctorate in physical therapy, what made you decide to pursue that profession?

I got interested in PT when I was rehabbing my own injuries–I tore my left and right ACL in quick succession and had a really great relationship with my PT, and appreciated all the help she gave me to be able to return to the playing field. I think the profession is a great combination of things I love: people, teaching, athletics/being active, and helping.

  1. You had a very demanding school schedule, how did you prioritize and balance school and your own health and fitness?

I told myself when I began grad school that 2 things would not be sacrificed: sleep and exercise. For me to be successful in graduate school, I need my sleep and I need to be active, otherwise I’d be really unhappy and I’m sure my schoolwork would suffer. I was not going to pull an all-nighter or skip a workout just to get maybe 2-3% more questions right on a test. Balance is really important!

  1. What is your favorite exercise or activity?

This one is really hard! There are so many things I love doing. Ultimate frisbee was my life for about 16 years, an amazing sport. Now, I’m about running, cycling, rock climbing, Zumba, and just trying to get as strong as possible. I have a LOT of fun at Zumba since I do it with my friends, but I probably feel strongest when I climb since I have to use what I’ve got to get my body up the wall/rock. And usually better technique than those who just muscle everything (ahem, men).

  1. Least favorite exercise or activity?

Hmmmm, tricky one. Least favorite of the things I do??? I mean, I just can’t get into golf, it’s too slow and classist and a waste of space/land. Yoga and pilates are also a little slow, but I have more respect for those activities. The strength/flexibility of people is insane. Of the things you, Tiffany, make me do, I might have to go with burpees. I mean, they are a great workout, but I actually dislike the up-and-down part, it always disorients me!

  1. What song pumps you up?

This answer changes probably monthly. Since I’ve been so into Zumba lately, I have a Zumba playlist where every single song fires me up. And there are certain songs I sing in my head when I’m running, especially long distances that don’t pump me up, but motivate me to keep going. I will give you my current favorite Zumba song, which is “Madre Tierra (Oye)” by Chayanne. It’s in Spanish so I have no idea what the words are (I hope they’re appropriate), but it is just such a HAPPY song.

  1. Who is your favorite athlete and why?

I love so many athletes, but I will go with the first athlete I loved–Jackie Joyner-Kersee. She was fast, she could jump, she was strong, and she had asthma (I had exercise-induced asthma as a child). She was also really well-spoken and positive in any interviews I would watch/read. And I’ll give a small shout out to my boy Andre Iguodala–I want biceps like his!

  1. Favorite mantra or quote?

I’m not much for mantras/quotes when it comes to sports stuff…I have a line from a favorite poem tattooed on my foot: “There’s love all day.” That keeps things in perspective.

  1. If you could give advice or a ti to someone who is just starting out on their fitness journey, or someone who is just getting back into a routine, what would that advice be? 

It’s one day/step/task at a time. That’s all anyone can do, and thinking about how far you might have to go is overwhelming. If you start with just walking to the end of the driveway and back, that’s something. Next time, go a little farther. Then again. And before you know it, 3 years have passed and you’re a Doctor of Physical Therapy or you’ve run a marathon or (insert goal here). It can be done!

Congratulations Heather!

~ Tiffany G. 

Weekly Challenge: COMMIT!

Set a goal & COMMIT to it.

Being clear about your goal is critically important to be able to achieve something you WANT.

It’s important to take control of the direction of your life and to live your life ON PURPOSE, and not just let life “happen” to you.

If you don’t, you might wake up in 10 years and wonder how you got there!

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Your Challenge of the week is:

Define one of your goals and COMMIT to achieving it.

No matter how big or small your goal is, if it doesn’t CHALLENGE you, it doesn’t CHANGE you.

Here are a few things that are important to define when setting your new goal:

  1. They have to be S.M.A.R.T. Goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Timely.) and write it down.
  2. Write down WHY this goal is so important to you.  When things become challenging to you, your WHY will push you through these tougher periods.  If you don’t have a good enough WHY, then you need to choose another goal that is IMPORTANT to you.
  3. Create an action plan! List out EXACTLY what you are going to do in order to achieve you goal.  Are you going to work out 3 times a week at 6am?  Great- now block it off in your schedule Be as clear and as specific as you can.
  4. Imagine how you are going to FEEL once you have accomplished your goal.  Write it down.  (this is a really important step- so don’t skip it!)
  5. Share it with someone. A friend, family member, co-worker or whoever!  Have this person help you to be accountable for your actions.

Are you ready to get started?

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What goal that YOU are going to set for yourself this week? Leave a comment below and let me know how I can help you! 

Wishing you a Healthier Ever After!

x0 ~ Tiffany G.

FAB Friday is BACK!

I have been off the grid lately.

 

I have had a lot of personal things going on that I am unable to disclose right now and I needed some time away to FOCUS on ME.

 

But I am back! And I am excited for what this next chapter holds for me.

 

So despite all the chaos the past month I have am going back to my FAB Fridays and sharing all the things I love, discovered or can’t get enough of!

 

Good People

It may sound silly but when you are going through a tough time you learn really quick who it is that you can count on. Some dive right in there with you. Listen and lend a hand. Others judge and want to tell you what it is that YOU should be doing based on THEIR opinions. They are all talk and no action. And, there are the ones that run for the hills. I have learned the people that I need to focus more attention on and the ones that I should conserve energy around.

 

STRONG

I absolutely loved this new show on NBC. My mentor and friend Todd Durkin was one of the trainers this season and I connected with his first trainee Devon Cassidy’s story in so many ways. They were eliminated Week 3 but in Week 6, along with the other eliminated contestants, had an opportunity to come back to compete for a second chance on the show. Todd made it through and formed a new team with Brittany. Every week their backs were against the wall as they faced elimination. And every week they fought and persevered. They made it all they way to the finals but fell short. It was a hard fight and showed that when you are physically and mentally strong you can over come any obstacle. It definitely shifted my mindset and is making me refocus in my own training and life.

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Books

I have some amazingly talented friends! Two weeks ago my friends Dawn and Doug landed on the Amazon Best Seller List. This is Dawn’s First book and the second one for Doug.

 

Jack’s Journey USA

This is a great feel good story about a woman and her dog traveling across country, meeting new people, exploring new places and hosting classes educating people how to get outdoors and be active with their dogs. Jack’s personality is one of a kind and he is huge into water sports. If you are an animal lover or seeking adventure be sure to check out this book.

 

Faith, Family, Fitness

I just started this book but one thing I can tell you about Doug, he is full of wisdom and has stories to share. He is a genuine soul and through trial and error, like most of us, is sharing what is important in his life and WHY. I hope to finish this book over the weekend.

 

Water

Water equals tranquility for me. I grew up down the street from the beach and spent summers at our lake house. I often head to the beach to clear my mind of negativity and gather my thoughts. There I am able to RESET and just BE. Currently I am spending a lot of time at a home with a waterfall in the back yard. I sit by it and read, journal and I am there currently writing this blog post!

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Have a great weekend!

 

~ Tiffany G.

STRONG…Are You Ready?

In April of 2011 I attended Todd Durkin’s Mentorship Program in San Diego. On the second day of the 3.5 day weekend I found was rushed to the hospital due to complications from a previous medical procedure. This was a fluke incident that had nothing to do with any of the activities involved in the weekend but it was definitely came at the most inconvenient time.  The weekend was supposed to be dedicated to turning both my life and career around.  As I laid on the gurney in the ER wearing a gown covered in blood waiting to go into surgery many thoughts began to flood my mind. (read more about that here.)

 

I originally met Todd in August of 2010 at the IDEA World Fitness Convention and while his lectures had a huge IMPACT on me and forced me to come to my senses, 2011 was the year to commit to change. For 5 years prior, I was miserable. I loathed my job and I was influenced by people who were toxic to my well- being. I was depressed, drinking excessively and completely lost in both my professional and personal life.

But after spending the weekend with Todd in 2011 I joined his Mastermind group and my life began to shift toward more positive and promising outcomes. I realized I can, and deserve, to live the life of my dreams.

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If others can do it, why not me?

 

As I dug deep into the personal and professional development he asked of us I became healthier, more successful, and found the right group to proudly call my TRIBE.

 

It hasn’t been easy, and I have stumbled many times along the way, but achieving your goals is not supposed to be a cakewalk. It takes obstacles, failures and hard lessons before you attain that high mark you set for yourself.

 

Todd has taught all of us in the mastermind to set weekly, monthly, and yearly goals and then challenges us to go bigger and dig deeper. He wants BHAGs (Big Harry Audacious Goals) He makes sure we are COMMITTED and in touch with our WHY with each decision we make. We have recommended reading, writing, and videos to watch to help us grow and get closer to our goals and purpose. He, along with our other coaches, spend so much time giving and mentoring us that sometimes we tend to forget that they have goals too.

 

Well I am happy to announce, and celebrate, that Todd’s 9 year BHAG is now a reality.

 

On April 13th he Todd be starting in NBC’s new show STRONG! I can’t wait for more to people to experience his heart, his passion, and his ability to IMPACT anyone he comes into contact with. He has changed my life and he will inspire many more through this show.

 

Be sure to check out STRONG on NBC April 13th! And if you live near me, I plan on hosting a viewing party so watch my FB page for details.

 

Get ready to be INSPIRED!

Caregiving: The Ups, Downs and the In between (Part 1)

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I am a caregiver. I am a daughter and only child of a 75-year-old man who is battling Alzheimer’s.

Alzheimer’s is the only cause of death that ranks in the top 10 diseases in the United States which cannot be prevented, cured or even slowed.

In 2014, family members provided almost 18 billion hours of unpaid care to their loved ones.  While there are plenty of resources out there to help you ease the tension when one has to revoke driving privileges from their loved one or how prepare your home to provide a safe environment, there is very little emphasis placed on the relationship shift that happens due to this ugly disease.

All of a sudden the relationship you once had with that loved one is gone forever. You may experience a glimpse of it here or there that leave you hopeful but soon you come back to reality as you realize your relationship with your loved one and this disease cannot be fixed. There is no work that can be done to improve it, you have to learn to develop a new relationship and that takes time. Being a caregiver, you do not have a lot of spare time to work on new things.

Caregivers themselves experience an emotional rollercoaster. There is anger, resentment and loneliness.  There is a grief that accompanies the loss of shared stories, experiences and activities. There is also anxiety. Who will care for your needs while you are aiding for someone else?  What is tomorrow going to be like?

webmail.motivated-fitness-21For me, all of a sudden the man that raised me had no idea who I was. He now refers to me as his brother.  One day I brought out a family photo album to bring back old memories and I told him I am his daughter. He became extremely agitated and began calling me a liar and saying I was “F’ing crazy.” And for those with experience with people with Alzheimer’s, once they are fixed on a subject they don’t let it go. I was heartbroken. I had always been daddy’s little girl. We used to fish together, go boating, play catch and take our dog out for walks. We would have game nights and dance to 50’s Dance Party when it was on TV.  Eventually I was able to distract him and move on to another subject. And now those memories are moments that I share only with myself.

I won’t discount who my father is. He is still a wonderful man, jovial most of the time, who walks around urging everyone to keep smiling. But on bad days, when things are out of routine, when he tries to do something himself or remember something, he gets frustrated. Those are bad days.  It breaks my heart. And I am the one who is there day in and day out to experience it.

This new limit in our ability to communicate deeply is the greatest loss in our father-daughter relationship. Simple conversations are now unnecessarily complex.

Almost everything I read advises caregivers not to get upset. But every day, dealing with loss after loss whether they misplaced your toothbrush, grabbed your car keys or took apart a project you are working on, we are encouraged to keep our cool so we don’t upset them. This can make a caregiver unravel.

Until recently I felt disruption with in me. After caring for my mom who lost her battle with cancer and going right into caring for my father, I felt a huge void in my life. I had difficulty remembering things, I didn’t know if I was coming or going, I was stressed, I had trouble concentrating, and I averaged less than two hours of sleep at night. My work suffered. My relationships suffered.  I felt alone and misunderstood.

webmail.motivated-fitness-31I do realize I am more fortunate than most. I have been able to write for two different ALZ support organizations. I can share my experiences, lessons learned and emotions with others so they can also not feel so alone. I  developed a friendship and working relationship with the author of Learning to Speak Alzheimer’s. I began to attract clients who have been through a similar situation. We have formed a safe community to openly talk about issues.

All of this has given me the strength, tools, and resources to make sure that my dad is getting the best care. I now feel empowered to care for my father even though it is not easy nor fair.

This disease is ugly. I thought cancer was bad, and believe me I still hate cancer, but watching someone be physically alive and healthy with no recollection of the life they lived for the past forty years is dreadful. I will continue to share my story and experiences to bring more awareness to the disease, to help caretakers get through this process.

Stay tuned caregivers…WE GOT THIS!